Miscarriage is the most common type of pregnancy loss. It is a term used for a pregnancy that ends on its own. It generally happens within the first 20 weeks of gestation. This potential complication or loss gives many women an uncomfortable feeling.
Studies reveal that 10-25% of clinically recognised pregnancies end in miscarriage. Pregnancy can be such a beautiful and exciting time, but with the vast number of miscarriages that occur, it is important to be informed about miscarriage.
Most of the miscarriages occur due to chromosomal abnormalities. There isn’t much that can be done to prevent miscarriages. Before conceiving it is important to exercise regularly, eat healthy, manage stress, take folic acid daily, avoid smoking.
When you find out you’re pregnant, then you should keep your abdomen safe, avoid smoking and consuming alcohol, check with your doctor before taking any medications, limit caffeine, and avoid activities that have a risk of injury.
How to deal with Miscarriages
It is absolutely normal to feel sad or angry after a miscarriage. Pregnancy loss can be devastating. You may find yourself in great turmoil physically and emotionally. The people around you may not understand the aspect of the grieving process, and don’t expect them to.
You may feel guilt, anger, confusion, anxiety, or shock. Allow your body and mind to feel however you want. Everyone’s grieving process is different, and there is no right or wrong way. It is better to take some time off work and take some time for yourself.
Let me introduce to Doyin Richards. When Doyin and his wife started trying to have children, he always thought they’d have a boy. He says he had some misconceptions about raising girls.
Then, his wife had a miscarriage and his anxiety around the assigned gender came to a devastating halt. He wasn’t able to grieve. His wife had lived through the trauma of the miscarriage. Doyin needed to be there for his wife.
As a man, he felt the pressure not to grieve. He felt he had to be strong and to not address the sadness. The miscarriage changed his perspective on parenting.
It made me realise it’s not about gender. It’s about having a child to raise.
The next time his partner got pregnant, he knew wouldn’t have a problem with the gender. He’s now the proud father of two beautiful daughters.
Anything you can do with a boy, you can do with a girl.
Watch Doyin share his message to all the men struggling to heal.
It’s fine to grieve. Even if you’re a man or a woman. It’s fine.